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Adventures in Dating Services (Part Three)

A quick update – since there really isn’t much to tell.  This is pretty damn sad, actually!  After spending $1,000 on a dating SERVICE, and about a month later:  still not ONE date!  I could have done this on Match!  I hate that I had the gut feeling that I shouldn’t have done this.  Do you ever have that feeling?  You KNOW this is probably not the best idea for you, but you do it anyway?  Then what happens?  I ALWAYS KICK MYSELF LATER!  ALWAYS!  I just thought this time was because this time I was dealing in an area that I’m not comfortable with.  So I just thought I was pushing myself out of my comfort zone.  Which I still was.  And it is still not over.  I know this.

Anyway, so here is the latest:  I spoke to guy, we’ll call him “43” almost 3 weeks ago now.  We ended things with ME suggesting that we meet up for a drink when he gets back into town.  (He travels a lot for work.)  He agreed, and said that should be “some time next week.”  I have LITERALLY not heard a word from him since!  And it can’t be that he is nervous because since I made the suggestion, he already has a “yes.”  I gave in and shot him a text on Friday afternoon, and so far NOTHING!  (It is now Sunday afternoon.)  I’ll be interested to see how the MM group handles situations such as these.  Please!  I canNOT be the first person this has happened to!

Bottom line:  This was supposed to be fun and easy, and it has been anything but.  I have paid a f**k-ton of money for a huge PAIN-IN-MY-ASS experience!!  I can’t help but to wonder, though, if I’m not that 2% case.  You know?  Like this is one of those cases that RARELY happens, but, of course, it is happening to me.  And I know what you are thinking, because I would be thinking it to… “with that attitude of course it is happening to you!”  Seriously, though, I have tried to put so much positivity into the universe with all of this, but it’s getting pretty old!

On a positive note:  The laundry is almost done, new grass has been planted, and had some fun this weekend with a girlfriend celebrating her birthday!  All things considered, a pretty damn good weekend.  (And BEAUTIFUL!)


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Adventures in Dating Services (Part Two)

I recently received a phone call from my “first match.”  On the one hand I’m excited, maybe even a little nervous.  On the other, I’m a little perturbed.  Let me explain.  I was originally told that I would basically get a heads up before actually talking to a “match.”  But I didn’t.  Seriously, this company is really ticking me off!  Apparently it was an “email issue” with their system.  Oh good, so it is a known issue.  Sweet.  So I call to get the goods on the guy they have matched me with before calling back my cold call.  Hang on, let me back up one more time by explaining what led up to what I’m about to tell you.  In the first meeting with the MM (matchmaker) she asked me what my age range was.  I said 32-40.  I’m 36, this is fair, right?  She responded by saying “Well, most people usually do a 10 year range.”  So I RELUCTANTLY agree to her terms, so now we are at 32-42.  After I paid all my money, and became “active” I emailed because I just wasn’t really happy with the whole age thing.  I tell them over and over, I’m really not happy with the idea of going over 40.  (I have my reasons, albeit morbid, I’m not just being a jerk!)  They basically throw all these facts and me and make me feel silly, so I agree to let them keep it at 42.  My first match?  …43!  I WAS PISSED!  Especially because the chick giving me that deets IMMEDIATELY says “HE JUST TURNED 43!” So she knew I wasn’t going to be happy about it.  GRRR!!!  Anyway, we have discussed it further and come to a new agreement on the matter, so moving on.

I don’t want to get too much into talking about the guy because we still haven’t met.  I will still meet him with an open mind because he didn’t know they matched us outside of my parameters.  So not his fault.  He is out of town a lot during the month with work, so I left things as “let’s meet for a drink when you get back into town.”  He agreed.  Though, I have to ask:  at this point I wait for him to contact me, right?  Because I haven’t heard from him.  Based on our first conversation, I’m not entirely surprised.  He did make it sound like it is more his family and friends that want him to find someone; he never once said he joined the company because HE was wanting to meet someone.  I thought that was weird.  But he seemed really nervous, so again, moving on.

Honestly, I’m hoping I don’t hear from him this weekend!  I’m taking on of my quarterly “mini-vacations” this weekend, and I REALLY need the me-time to get shit done!  Which means I’ll hear from him.  Of course, right?  Because that is usually when men show up in my life, when I don’t want them to!  Seriously though, my house looks like Hurricane Katrina came back to life and ran through it!  So I have my work cut out for me!

Hope you have a great night!  This is what mine looks like!

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Adventures in Dating Services! (Part One)

The Consultation

It’s been about a month since my last post.  What a month August was!  But that is truly a whole other post.  Tonight, I’m catching you up on a new venture in my life: A DATING SERVICE!  No, not a website.  We’re not talking about Match, eHarmony or the like, we are talking true, old fashioned dating SERVICE!  Yes, I met with a real-life “Matchmaker!” (which from here on out will be called “MM”) And I put down some dough, some SERIOUS DOUGH!

Out of no where one day, someone introduced me to this local dating service.  Then she did her damnedest to talk me into it!  After going back and forth for about a month, I decide to try it out.  Since I am NOT a person who can spend money like this on something like THIS, I asked around to see what the word on the street was.  (I mean, there is no money-back guarantee with this!)  Couldn’t be mad, it was all positive, even calling her one of the best.

When I called to make the appointment I was met with a bunch of questions, some that led me to realize this chick I was talking to?…not so bright.  My favorite was after answering “yes” to the question: “Are you single, never married?,” she then asked me if I had any children.  After answering “no,” I got the sad “oh.”  REALLY?!  Wouldn’t that be the best answer??!!  This was also after she asked me a bunch of questions as if I had already been there!  She was about as dumb of a box of hair.  But, I assured myself this was NOT the MM.  So after never receiving the confirmation email I was told to expect, you know the one with their address in it and whatnot?, I made my way there one Monday afternoon in August.
I was met by the MM at the door who sat me down and gave me a couple of personality quizzes to answer and a COKE (SOLD!).  I know, I’m so easy!  LOL!  After that was done she brought me into her office and we started to chat.  (And yes, if you’re curious, box-of-hair chick was there too.)

Adventures in Dating Services / shecooksinstilettos.comI was SO NERVOUS!  I felt like I was ordering dinner, not a potential boyfriend!  It was weird.  I mean, I know they ask a lot of the same questions on dating sites, but when you’re actually telling someone that you are looking for someone who is from this age to this age, a non-smoker, et cetera, it just seems a bit demanding, you know?  We went through everything!  I was there for about an hour and a half!  Then it was time to “pick a package.”  Lordy!

We start with the “Lifetime Package!”  I’m SO not kidding!  I’m thinking, maybe we should eliminate any guy that has chosen THAT package!  Really?!  If you think it is going to take that long to find Mrs. Right, then there is either something really wrong with you, or I will never make you happy!  Either way – MOVING ON!  Now, the packages are based on number of “introductions.”  This means this is how many people with whom you are introduced.  I could (not really) afford the smallest package they offer…THREE!  (And we had to break that down into payments!  Man, I wish I was kidding!)  Anyway, for those of you who have hung in to hear how much THREE introductions cost me:  ONE THOUSAND DOLLARS!!  Nope – you did not misread that.  1,000 smackers!

After the consultation was all said and done, I headed home where I immediately started having heart palpitations and buyers remorse!  Then, of course, I remembered all the bills I had due in August.  Bills that are due once a year even!  Like personal property taxes, car insurance…OH!  And one of my licenses that is only due every 2 years!  Yep!  Due in August!  I absolutely freaked!  But I kept telling myself that maybe this is how it had to happen.  I had to be forced.  I mean, I just felt so obligated after sitting with this MM for over an hour and a half.  I know, most of you would say “not me!” and bolt.  But I am also the kind of person that once my mind is made up, it is made up.  So it was time to try something new!  Quite honestly, the silence in my home is, on occasion, deafening.  I’m sure one day I’ll beg for it back!

All I can do now is hope that this was the right decision!  I plan to keep you all updated!  So check back soon!  I am officially “live” in there database, so who knows what could happen any day now!  (Being “live” means they have all my money!  Because as the MM said “We can’t repossess your boyfriend!”)  If it doesn’t work out, then oh well, at least I gave it a shot!